Detachment is experiencing our feelings without letting them control us. 

Thoughts seem so important and profound when they’re buzzing in our heads. Sometimes it’s hard to catch on that  these are just… thoughts, not always real life or the truth. I think it’s important to value your internal self, since you live with you every day, but it’s good to check in with your “external” perspective from time to time. Pretending your’e a viewer looking in on your story may help you get some fresh air, shift your thinking, and ultimately help you see yourself in a new light.

If I’m always reacting, I’m never free. 

I’m all about living and feeing every second of it. It’s hard for me not to spit fire when I feel it inside. I’ve noticed in recent years that getting upset every time someone bothers me is unproductive and actually pushes things I want to happen away. There will always be people who don’t see things the way we do, but I’m not trying to convince you they’ll never change. As hard as it is to believe, people can adopt new views after tough conversations. It’s harmful though when we get too stuck in our own thought process or beliefs we can’t hear anything else. When we do this we’re locking ourselves in, becoming a prisoner of our own pre-disposition. If you detach yourself from the situation and let them be them and you be you, there’s a better chance the interaction will be a positive one. After all, you don’t need anyone’s approval or understanding to validate your thoughts and who you are. 

Detachment in a relationship isn’t always a bad thing. I don’t mean becoming uncaring or absent, but keeping a part of you for yourself, untouched by anyone else. Things you know you’ll always have inside, no matter who is around. It helps to keep a relationship what it should be – an exchange between individuals. Focusing on what we can do to make ourselves happy sets free the people we love from the sometimes impossible expectations we put on them. Now it’s our job to make us happy, and we can love and appreciate them for who they are.

Detachment can be healthy, loving and freeing if you let it.<3